I think as working moms we are used to working under pressure…mostly in our jobs, but I have also found that I tend to put myself under similar amounts of pressure at home. I am sure some of it is because I work well under pressure. I multi-task better, I find motivation, I take deadlines seriously. However, at home, pressure is not always conducive. I put pressure on myself to cook as much as possible, I spend hours researching how to make a stupid tulle Halloween costume, I get up early to tidy up so my nanny doesn’t think we live like this daily, I take on more activities than I need to. I feel like this is somewhat of a viscious cycle. I do good, I do bad. I also feel that progress is spiral, like Val of Babywise Mom says. Because I work well under pressure I tend to do good for awhile and perform well, but then I realize that I am missing the target at home…simply being wife and mom…all while staying Christ-centered. Here are some things I am learning and questions to ask:
- My kids will most likely not remember what they dressed up for at Halloween at this age, let alone whether I made it
- My husband honestly does not care if I cook well, only if I get stressed out about it
- My kids do not care if they eat cereal or a homemade scone
- Is this project or task contributing to feelings of peace or anxiety?
- Am I missing out on spending quality time with my children or my husband?
- How important is this??
- Do I have a servant heart and attitude (a happy heart as my kids call it and my husband teases me about having one too)?
- Is my attitude/anxiety impacting my family? Are my children or husband picking up on it?
- If so, “I” need to change my perspective/attitude/heart.
- I can’t do it all…so what am I going to pick to cut out or remove pressure from doing?
How do you balance the pressure we place on ourselves at home? Do you think working contributes to that mentality?