One of my biggest fears when I first returned to work after having my son was someone would be spending more time with him than I. I felt guilty that I was not there every minute. Would he miss me? Would he not miss me? Who would teach him while I was away?
On the flip side, I have also realized that I cherish my time with my children oh so much more when I am not in the moment 24/7. I do not “need” a break from my children, but I have found that I am much more energized and productive when I am required to make our time together count even more.
While this could easily turn into a debate, part of working gracefully is making conscientiousness decisions for our family and providing core values for our children…even when it is not popular or easy. With that being said, I fully believe that my husband and I are the primary influences in our children’s lives. I believe that we have taught them priceless values and carefully consider how to grow their hearts. I do not pay anyone to do this for me. I do not thoughtlessly send my children to places where their attitudes will be negatively impacted day after day.
However, we do rely on others to help us. Sunday School teachers, preschool teachers, like-minded parents/playmates, family, nannies. We make very intentional decisions about where they go to school, who they play with, what they watch…even when we are not here. I am mom 100% of the time.
I say this to encourage you. I remember feeling so down and out that I was not there every second for my kids. Guess what? Some of the very most meaningful conversations are the ones we have had in the car, at bedtime, getting ready for church…moments I would not miss for anything. I am so very proud of my children and so thankful for the people that have helped us. I consider myself one of the two primary influences in their lives, and don’t let anyone else tell you differently even if you are not with them all of the time