Dating your own children may sound silly, but it is honestly one of my most favorite things to do. We did not do it often with my son because most outings were family outings, and little did I know how much easier one child was. When I had my daughter, we also kept our nanny part-time. We needed her full time twelve short weeks later so she came for a few hours each day starting the day of my daughter’s birth.
Some days, I went back to sleep for two hours as soon as she came. Some days I ran to the grocery store…alone. Other days, I took my son on a date. An old fashioned, choose the special activity date. We ran no errands, picked up no milk, no Target. He picked the activity, or I surprised him.
We did everything from going to the toy store to the zoo. My husband even requested dates with our son for daddy’s birthday. I honestly think this was a huge factor into having little jealously when little sister came along. Our son knew that he would still have his special time.
Ideally, I would love to say that we have a regular date or day that we date each of our children, but we usually are not that organized! We do, however, evaluate one on one time whenever behavior issues creep up. My husband will start googling Lowes Build and Grow workshops or I make plans with my daughter, my little shopping buddy. We also make sure we each have one on one time with each child, not just boys vs. girls.
I have seen huge rewards and had some of the best conversations with my children on these dates. There is just something so special about that spark in their eye knowing they have our full attention and a full love tank. Sometimes I even get a few kisses out of it!