I have been writing a weekly series inspired by a post from Kristen Welch. It is rich with tips on keeping your marriage hot when it feels so not. Another one of her tips is to “fill your head with each other.” Oh, how-so-very-important. Who is consuming your thoughts? Who satisfies your thoughts? Do you look a second time at the handsome guy sitting nearby at Starbucks? Or is it a tv series that you live for each week? There are countless number of ways our attention can be turned away from our spouse.
Another way we lose focus on filling our head with good thoughts of our spouse is to focus on negative thoughts of our spouse. Instead of thinking of all he did this weekend to help, are you focused on the one thing he forgot to do last night? I know I probably did. I talk about him almost every day…but is it good and holy and uplifting words and deeds? Nope. Not always. Could I say I am consumed with good thoughts of my spouse?? Not even close.
But when we only let our mate fill up our tank, we are on the path to a marriage that is not only white hot, but Godly. – See more at: http://wearethatfamily.com/2013/09/7-habits-of-a-hot-marriage-in-the-middle-of-monotony/#sthash.w3YenAWc.he4zU5GE.dpuf
I am going to make a concerted effort to satisfy my thoughts with my husband. Even focusing on kids and homework and science projects can too easily crowd out my husband. He has so many positive attributes that I dismiss too easily, and I am challenging myself to find some specific ways to incorporate him into my thoughts…good thoughts.