Connecting with your spouse in small ways that makes them feel loved is a big deal. – See more at: http://wearethatfamily.com/2013/09/7-habits-of-a-hot-marriage-in-the-middle-of-monotony/#sthash.w3YenAWc.he4zU5GE.dpuf
This is the third habit from Kristen Welch’s awesome post about keeping a marriage hot, especially in the midst of monotony.Kristen gives an example about her husband giving her a card and a new wallet…just because. Recently, a co-worker of mine was trying hard to remember to get a Christmas card for her husband and son because her husband always had one for her. I’ve written some about love languages, and it is safe to say that my husband’s love language is definitely not giving gifts. In fact, one of the first things I remember him ever saying about cards is that it was the biggest waste of $3 that he could think of. Safe to say I have never given him a Christmas card! However, he has left notes over the years, and those notes have come to mean a lot. They hold a lot of significance and I save all of them and stash them in little places. I have this one in my card. I have one from my son on my dashboard (following in his father’s footsteps). I have one in my wallet from my daughter (who is quite different and gives cards, literally, almost every single day!).
So it may not be a physical gift or a Hallmark card but I am willing to bet there are those things, only you know, that your spouse does that warms you up. And, more importantly, there needs to be those little things that you do for your spouse. His favorite candy bar waiting in his car, renting his favorite movie, genuinely asking about the game he just watched, sending cookies to work. We also need to be sure that when something big happens…because it will…maybe in 10 minutes…that we don’t forget the little things. They truly can be big things and they keep us from going off the deep end when something big happens. If you have gotten out of the habit of doing little things, now would be a great time to jot down 10 things. Things that can be done without a ton of effort, but things that, consistently done, will make sure he knows that you know that he rocks! I bet that, even though it may not be what you were wishing for at the top of your list, he will return the favor soon!