The last habit Kristen Welch says is characteristic of a monotonous but hot marriage is to compliment each other.
Your influence over your spouse is powerful, use it to bless them. – See more at: http://wearethatfamily.com/2013/09/7-habits-of-a-hot-marriage-in-the-middle-of-monotony/#sthash.w3YenAWc.he4zU5GE.dpuf
When my husband says I cooked an excellent supper, I know I just hit it out of the park. I tell my coworkers at work they have to try the new recipe I found. It helps that he is a bit of a picky eater so I know if he likes something that it was really good. Nonetheless, I feel like all of the effort I put into cutting up a million bite-size veggies and making a royal mess of meat splattering all of the stove was worth every bite.
If I ask my husband if he likes my hair or the outfit I spent time picking out, he will 10 out of 10 times just say, “yeah, you always look great.” He would never, ever make me feel bad about my appearance but he doesn’t put a lot of emphasis on appearance or flattery either. The times he does say,”Wow! You really look great!” or “That hairstyle is truly flattering!” I know that I must look absolutely fantastic to him (but he might not have used the actual word truly though…all the same to me!). I am glad, deep down, that he doesn’t give compliments left and right throughout the day because when he does I feel like a million dollars.
I need to make sure that I am also giving him compliments. I say that he doesn’t compliment a ton, but do I compliment often myself? Do I really pay attention to the things he does well? Do I make sure I actually tell him? He may brush it off, but I do see that glimmer in his eyes when I tell him his choice of shirt and pants look great. He may think it simple or no big deal, but I see him smile when I tell him how good he is with our kids. I could definitely improve the number of compliments I give or at least the consistency in which I give them. I am truly blessed to be in marriage with him and I need to make sure he absolutely knows that and feels that, beyond a shadow of a doubt…whether things are monotonous or hot…or both.