Say yes when you can, no when you must.
I have to give the original credit for this phrase/post to Valerie from Babywise Mom. Ever since I read her post almost a year ago, it has stuck in my mind. The gist of it is say yes when yes will do…reserve saying no for when you have to say no. Don’t get “no” happy. I think it’s pretty straightforward but Val has some really good examples on her blog. This is different than giving your child too many freedoms or parenting outside of their funnel. This is letting kids be kids and fulfilling some of their strange requests.
The reason why I think this concept is so important for working moms is that I often try to create structure when flexibility is needed. I feel like I need to make up for the time I am at work sometimes…to get back on track. While my kids definitely depend on routine and structure, they are still energetic, creative toddlers. They are both very imaginative and full of life. Sometimes adding too much structure squashes some of that “fullness.” By saying yes when I can it also makes a lot of time more valuable. It shows them that even though I am away part of the day, their thoughts and desires are still important and valuable. It does not mean that I give in to them out of guilt or let them run the house to make up for time apart. I simply show them that it is still okay to be a kid and ask for crazy things…sometimes the answer might just be yes!