These are definitely towards the top of my list of benefits to being a working mom. Is it the most important? No. Does it have a lot to do with why I work? Yes. Would this be possible if I didn’t work? Probably not.
I work in healthcare and make more a substantial income. My health benefits are superior, and my job is more stable than my husband’s job much of the time. It is not just about way of life and status. Actually it has very little, if anything, to do with that. Sure, I want the best for my kids just like every other mom. Sure, I want them to have an easier time paying for college and saving money than I did. However, just to say that we could cut back and make a few lifestyle changes is not necessarily logical.
First, I was a helpmate to my husband before I had children. His income would not meet our needs. I agreed to work. I also think both partners need to be on the same page. Did my priorities change once I had kids…absolutely! Is it as simple as selling a car? Nope. I would move to a different house in a heartbeat, but 20% of the houses in our neighborhood are for sale. All of them have been on the market for over a year. I do believe that our house would sell if it was God’s will but I am not convinced that the stress of working full-time and putting a house on the market is the best thing for our family at this point and time. I think I am able to provide what my children need at this point and time, and the time I spend with them after work is way more priceless than staging a house with two toddlers and 3 big dogs.
It does provide us some comfort, and I don’t think that is wrong. I think we are made to feel like it is, if I am being honest. I have friends that stay at home that need to discuss with their husbands if they can even afford a book to join a book club. We have also been able to provide financial support for family and friends in need. My husband and I have sponsored a child for over 10 years. I realize that is a very small thing to do, but we have never once questioned that support, ever, as tight as money has been. I have a personal goal to go on a second missions trip soon. Money is still tight at times even with both of us working. I can’t imagine the additional stress without my income. I do believe God would meet our needs but I feel like God is also working through us without me giving up my job.
How important do you think income is? Do you think we should stay home independent of income?