This is hard. I hear this a lot when women work part-time. They feel like they have extra time at home so their house should be very much in order, but they often feel like their job responsibilities have not really decreased. They are just at work less hours.
I think this is also common because let’s face it…our mind is sometimes elsewhere. What about when you have a hard time even focusing because you are missing your baby? What about when you have to run out the door for the first available sick appt at the pediatrician? What about when when a problem pops as you are walking out the door and you can’t run late today?
I think in any of these scenarios we have to remind ourself of the benefits of working and the benefits of doing what is best for our family…even if we have to make some sacrifices on the jobsite. I’ve mentioned before making mental lists. Literally there are days when I force myself to tick off the reasons I am working. I don’t hesitate to put my family first, but there are definitely days where I don’t feel like I am doing a good job prioritizing either family or work.
I think the most helpful thing is to communicate with your husband and your employer regularly. You probably need to decide how to handle sick days and vacation days for your caregiver. In many instances, it is easier for me to take planned vacation time in advance for our caregiver (I accrue more and can roll it over) but my husband can sometimes take sick days for our caregiver/kids at the last minute depending on work deadlines.
In the end, if you feel like your work/family life is balanced, can you change your work schedule? Do you need to rearrange priorities/commitments? Do you just need a spa day??
How do you handle feeling like you aren’t pulling your wait? Do you think there is a way to balance work and family?