I think that in some ways staying busy with things I am passionate about actually makes me a much better mother and wife. I really did not feel called most of my life to be a stay at home mom. I definitely wanted children but I didn’t dream about babies and mothering. I don’t necessarily love taking care of other kids. It wasn’t until I was pregnant that I wondered if I was going to be able to handle being a working mom.
I know that there are points in my life as a mother where I would not have been a good stay at home mother to my children. I do not handle the newborn period well. I know it’s a struggle for many moms, but it is quite overwhelming for me. I stress if they aren’t sleeping, I stress while they are sleeping, I stress about sleep training, and I do not handle sleep deprivation well. Sure I got through it, but there were some days that I truly benefited from not being there 24 hours a day.
Now I am at the point that I feel much more confident as a mother. Not that I have all the answers, but I am just not the nervous high strung mom that I was. I see how valuable it would to be home with and for my children. However, God has placed me in a different situation right now.
It would be easy to dwell on all that I wish I could do if I could stay at home, but that is not benefiting anyone. Instead, I have found the the value of dwelling on things that I am passionate about. I started to title this “Staying Busy” but it is more than that. I have been the happiest I have ever been at times since I have been a working mom. Looking back on those times, there was something driving me, something that I was passionate about.
Even if you are not passionate about your job, I highly recommend finding something that you are passionate about. A hobby, a blog, a gym, a small group Bible study…something that you love doing. A few of my ideas have even brought my husband and I closer. I also find that sometimes when I lose my passion or have too much idle time I become depressed or unproductive. It seems the busier I am, the more productive and happy I am.
This is more than staying busy with errands and activities. Sometimes I leave things undone at home (such as laundry) in order to fulfill my passions. I might I have to sort through a pile of laundry to find anything clean for work (hello, 15 min dryer refresh), but it makes a huge difference in my attitude and emotional well-being to feel purposeful.
What you are passionate about?