Uh…I struggle with having the same bedtime. We have gone through periods when we don’t struggle but usually we do. I have to get up 1 hour earlier for work than everyone else so I try really hard to get in bed on time. My husband also struggles with insomnia and sleep apnea so many nights he knows he is not tired enough to sleep or often times will want to catch one more tv show. Really I just blow this idea off most of the time. It “works” for us…but does it?
When I ready Kristen’s post, I was a little floored after I read what she has to say about going to bed at the same time as your spouse:
But when we only let our mate fill up our tank, we are on the path to a marriage that is not only white hot, but Godly. – See more at: http://wearethatfamily.com/2013/09/7-habits-of-a-hot-marriage-in-the-middle-of-monotony/#sthash.w3YenAWc.he4zU5GE.dpuf
I don’t disagree…I just hadn’t really thought about it that way. That is the last time you and your spouse will connect for the day. Missing out on that time is missing out on a chance to improve your marriage. Yes, I know…you’re touched out, you’re tired, you wanted to be in bed 30 min, you have an early meeting in the morning (I mean, me). I never really thought about all of the chances I was/am missing on having that little bit of quiet time together. Instead of feeling like I am missing out on a chance to sleep, I need to feel like I am missing out on a chance to spend valuable time with my husband. It’s not the time to go over school events or weekend chores or allow frustrations to creep in on what was not accomplished that day…but it could be such a sweet way to end the day instead of rushing off to bed first.