Holidays are hard. Add a spouse, a step-family, jobs, and kids…and you have a mission: impossible. At least that’s the way my holiday schedule always feel. It is quite stressful and sometimes feels disastrous to plan time off, in-laws, family, Christmas traditions. I hate that. Holidays are meant to be relaxing and filled with fun.
I hate that I already feel so torn, and I hate that working around my work schedule is an additional layer of chaos. I hate that I cannot always get the holidays off that I want…or I forget to ask off. I hate that I will have to rotate through Christmas. It starts becoming a snowball of “if only I were a stay at home mom, I wouldn’t have to worry about working on and around the holidays.” Forget that stay at home moms don’t usually have sick days or backup childcare. All I can think about is how hard I have it.
Well, I don’t have a magic bullet for getting through the holidays, but I do know that holidays can still be relaxing. With two full-time working parents, our extended family has learned that we often stay put on the holidays even if we aren’t working. Sometimes we try to make family get togethers, but often that is our time to “chill down” as a family as my son calls it. We always try to do something special on those weekends…whether it’s just going to the pool all morning or building forts in our family room…we try to avoid using those long weekends for errands. We also look for new traditions to make that time off work special…or things we can do even if one parent has to work.
It has also taught me that I cannot do it all. I think it teaches my kids how to handle life in the professional world. A lot of their perception depends on my attitude. If they see me happy and excited to spend time with them, even if it isn’t on the holiday itself, they continue to realize just how much I love them. So as you hopefully relax with your families today, know that I understand just how valuable today is to you. I’ll be thinking of you…from work, arghhh.
Thank you for working so hard, especially as a working mom. Enjoy your Labor Day!