One of the things I think every mom worries about when returning to work is whether baby will remember mommy right away. Or the dreaded calling the nanny “mama.” Or the happy-go-lucky “BYE, MOM!! See ya soon!”…back turned before the words are finished.
I have been there. Every scenario. I don’t think it takes long before we realize that our babies will not forget us. In some instances, it might be nice to be forgotten one evening every so often…when it feels like you are working two overtime full-time jobs. It’s one of the things I tell new moms who are worried their babies will forget them…babies always know mama. ALWAYS. Ask any nursing mom that tries to go in to the nursery in the middle of the night for a quick check.
I think for two months straight my son always started sentences with “Michelle..I mean, Mommy…” and I know he called our nanny mommy too. I would be lying if I didn’t say it was a little difficult to hear day in and day out, but he was 2 years old. His verbal skills were developing rapidly and sometimes he couldn’t even get the words out fast enough so I know it was literally a slip of the tongue. Our 2 year old daughter now does the same thing and calls my husband “Mommy-Daddy” all the time. I really think you just have to laugh the name changing off.
At least for me, the hardest part is also the biggest blessing…when my kids don’t miss me…or worse yet preferred our nanny. I think my son was over 2 before he went through separation anxiety with me. He was more of a daddy’s boy, but it made getting out of the house in the mornings a breeze. I love to be needed…I don’t always want to be wanted. My daughter has been on the other extreme, a big time mommy’s girl. It was difficult but it was a bit of “progress” for her when she cried for our nanny. More than anything, I knew beyond a shadow of doubt that we had made the right decisions and been gifted with a fantastic nanny.
Consider it a true joy to have caregivers in your life that can step in and offer love for your children. It may be difficult to hear or see, but leaving a happy child is a good thing. In my heart of hearts, I believe it means they are well-adjusted. There will be days with tears, but there will also be days they don’t look back. It does not mean you are less needed, wanted, or loved. It means you are doing a great job and are a great mom with a great child! Take it!!