I know that disappointment is a valuable life lesson. I know it is necessary. BUT, man is hard to watch your kids learn. I know that there will be times I miss events. I know that movingwould be hard on the whole family, but it still grips me at times when I hear my 4 yo talk about missing his friends…his only friends. (sigh!!!!)
We moved over 4 months ago. My son has been in a new preschool for almost 2 months. He loves it. He is thriving. He is learning. He amazes me at how well he has adjusted.
Then…he talks about wishing he was 3 forever. He wants his “bones to be 3 size” forever. He misses his friends and then names them by names. He talks about his old teacher. He talks constantly about our old house and asks often if we can take our dogs when we move back.
The worst??! I just found out that the kids in his previous mother’s morning out class at his old school often say that someone is missing when they line up. The teacher asks “Who?!” and the kids shout my son’s name. OH.MY.HEART.
(sigh) I wish I could fix everything for him. I wish I could take his pain. I wish I could magically move us back us back to our old house, home, and school. I wish I could make new best friends appear tomorrow. I wish I could better explain why we moved and why we need jobs.
It is hard for me not to dwell on the disappointment, the helplessness…but these are life lessons. I need to remind myself that as hard as it is to start lose a job, to move, to start a new job, to watch my children adjust…disappointment is important. If there was no disappointment, my kids would be sorely unprepared for life. They would always expect to be happy and to be instantly gratified. I hate watching them struggle, grapple…but they are thriving…thriving because we are ensuring they thrive.
He will make new friends…and don’t tell him…we are planning a surprise visit to his old school. In my heart of hearts, I know that he will look back and appreciate the ability to handle disappointment. He will not resent me for moving. He will not always remember his first preschool. He is a happy, brilliant boy that loves his mommy!