The third part in our Christ-centered series is about being Christ-centered mothers. This is adapted from an amazing sermon series about building a home, not a house. Christ needs to be our first priority, our first love. This then allows us to love our husbands as we should. Loving our husband as we should allows us to then love our children as we should. It is an amazing relationship that flows down from our love for God. We, as mothers, easily understand what a huge and important task it is to love our children and be Christ-centered. I think we go about it wrong sometimes and put things out of order. I think that is when we feel like our life and our priorities are so unbalanced. I truly think we will know a difference if we are right with God and prioritizing our marriages. I think our children will know the difference as well.
We, of course, want the best for our children. I fully support that, but I think we struggle with how to do that and balance working. I do think it would be easier, in some aspects, to accomplish this if I was at home with them all day. How do we do this in the few short hours that we sometimes have? How do we handle the guilt of not being there for them to do this?
Well, let’s go back to our first priority. Do your kids see you put God first? Yes, I believe we need to spend time alone with God, but do your kids then see you live that out? Do they know that you cut other things out before you cut out your quiet time? Do you pray with your children? Do you read to them from the Bible? Do you look for ways to bring God into your everyday conversations with them? Do you emphasize being Christ-centered as much as you emphasize learning their colors or letters?
Second, do they see you live out your affirmation to your husband? Do they see you do more than just give him a kiss on the cheek after work? Do they see you hold hands? Do they know that you and Daddy spend time alone together (I’m talking about date nights and such)? Do they know that you and Daddy do special things for each other even when you’re tired, especially when you’re tired?
Some of those things are not very tangible but yet they go so far towards showing your children the love of Christ. I think that one of the benefits of working is that it makes it easier to utilize my time with my children. Even if I were with them all day, I think there would be a lot of lost time. It would still be valuble, but would I be looking for every chance to make the most of our time? Or would I get burned out and forget to cherish that time to the extent I do right now? Sure I would cherish that time if I were home all day but right now I am forced to really place an emphasis on each moment I have. I stay up late at night printing out activites. I get up early to pray over my family. I enrolled my son in a church-based Mothers Morning Out. I make going to church a priority, as tired as I am.
These are just a few of the ways that I make sure my children know that I am living out my relationship with Christ? What are some ways that you show your children how important it is to be Christ-centered? How do you balance teaching them about Christ and working?
Deuteronomy 6:5-9 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. (NIV)