This is part of our Christ-centered mothers posts based on an amazing sermon series, but it is also going to be the first of many posts about having Christ-centered marriages. I believe this is something that we struggle with and neglect the most as mothers, but I believe it is of paramount importance. We as mothers are wives first. I realize there are exceptions, and we will treat each situation with grace. However, if you are married with children, your first priority after loving God is to love your husband.
I am quite serious about this. We as mothers, and as a society, want the best for our children. It is often easier for us to love them unconditionally and pour ourselves out to them. We want to offer everything in our power to them…often at the expense of our marriage. So while this is a short series, it is really the beginning of many discussions on marriage. This is so important!
Our kids depend on us to have a strong marriage. They will notice a difference, I promise. They need it and love it. Your kids need to know that Daddy is a priority. Your kids need to know that your marriage is a huge priority, even above their needs at times. Yes! It needs to be first, not just important.
I am not saying that you neglect your kids needs or that you do not prioritize your children. I mean that you need to find ways to keep your marriage strong, intact, and passionate. We will explore ways to do that a lot further, but I do wholy belive that your children need to know that you and your husband are united and Christ-centered. It makes parenting so much easier in many ways. I also believe that your marriage and husband will suffer if this is not the case.
I admire couples that have dedicated a night each week or even each month to date each other. I love that idea! Sure it takes work, money, and creativity but I think that is one of the simplest ways to make each other a priority. No, my husband and I do not always do that, but we do make sure we set aside time for each other. We are also very adamant about having conversations without being interrupted. They are often impromptu at dinner or driving in the car, but if we tell our children that we are talking we refuse to answer questions or “Hey, Mommy! Hey, Mommy!” You can also institute “couch time.” I have a lot of friends that do this for 15 minutes or so as soon as Daddy is home. It is a time to talk with no interruptions as well. Those that I know that do this are certain that their kids are not as well-behaved without it…without seeing Mommy and Daddy make a priority for each other and show their kids that their marriage is important.
How do you keep your marriage Christ-centered? How do you make your husband a priority?? Do you disagree that it should come before your children’s needs?
Ephesians 5:31-33And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. (The Message)