One of the things I hear most from moms with young babies is that “this age” is the most important to stay at home with children. Otherwise, you miss milestones, bring home daycare germs, spend more time away from baby than with baby, and so forth. While the value of being at home with children will always be high, I am finding that the older my kids get…the more they need me to be available for them. “Available” does not always mean physically being home 24/7, but they need me to be accessible, one on one time, conversations, quality time, nurturing.
The newborn/infant stage was honestly not my favorite but looking back, I put so much guilt on myself to be at work. I let others guilt me into thinking that I was missing the very most crucial moments in their lives. My kids are now 2 and 4 years old, and we feel that “this” is the age they need more guidance, direction, attention. Babies always know who their mommy is (which was one of my worries when I first went back) and they need interaction. Toddlers need activity. Preschoolers need socialization. Their needs are always growing.
Currently, my children spend more time with my husband and I combined than ever before. They are thriving, growing, brilliant, loving children. I am so very proud to be their mommy, and I am very thankful for all of the very important people in our lives that have had a hand in helping us raise them.
The point of this post is not to say that the infant months are not extremely valuable. I am not saying that women should not stay home during that time, but I do want other working moms to know that it is okay to be sad, okay to be happy, and okay to be a working mom with a young baby. Your children will always needs you…and love you. Especially as they grow older.