I was invited recently to join a wonderful group of bloggers in a Babywise-Friendly Networked Blogs. The goal is to have one guest post from one of the bloggers in the group every month and then every quarter a week of babywise-friendly posts. I have talked a little about Babywise before but it has been awhile since I have talked about it in depth. Is it for everyone? No. Did it make a positive difference for me especially as a working parent? Yes! As part of this network, you will see further posts about babywise (and much more) from these talented bloggers. I am honored to be part of such an amazing group.
I thought it might be fun to give my two cents about each of the posts from last week and how I thought they were applicable to working moms. Last Monday, Valerie talked about sleep temperature and how it affects children. I have always been jealous of how accurate she has been knowing that about her own children. She is very attuned to their personalities and needs. I cannot begin to tell you what a difference it makes for my daughter. If she is just a couple of degrees too hot or too cold, it can be a nightmare getting her to sleep. My son is not nearly as picky, but he definitely likes it on a cooler side. I wish someone could give me an internal thermostat for my daughter and just tell me what to set it on and when it flip flops! To get a full night’s rest, I have definitely started paying more attention to their best sleep temperature.
Tuesday, Maureen posted about taking babysteps towards first-time obedience. She is so very passionate about first-time obedience and helping other parents achieve it that she has written an eBook about it. The problem is that sometimes we realize how much work we have to do that we get easily overwhelmed. Obedience is physically impossible to achieve overnight, no matter how many books you read. It takes practice and consistency putting it into action. I think Maureen’s book is a great place to start. It’s very similar to giving childcare providers one or two things to work on at first, then slowly adding a few others as the structure forms. My husband and I are extremely passionate about obedience…first-time obedience. We call it “the first time, right away, with a happy heart.” Some days I feel like we’re right back where we started…and then the next day someone compliments us at a busy, hectic restaurant on their impeccable behavior. Ok, maybe no one has ever used the word “impeccable” but I have been glowing after people notice and respond.
Wednesday was Hank from DaddyLife.net. I love his support for involving dads in their kid’s lives. He had some great tips on how to support your husband as a father and value him as a parent. I cannot even begin to give enough praise to my husband for how involved he is in raising our children. Sometimes he cares more than I even realize! I have had to work weekends ever since I started my career and I worked a week right after going back to work after both maternity leaves. I knew he was capable. I trusted him. BUT I was leaving “my” babies!! Fast forward four years (they did fine every single weekend, by the way), now I am pretty sure that he handles them better on his own than I do. I am blessed with a wonderful husband, but I hope my kids realize what a wonderful father they have. More than anything, Hank’s post reminded me to make sure my husband knows I think all of this
Rachel posted about a topic near and dear to my heart on Thursday…sleep training…and the guilt associated with it. Her post was spot on, and I wish I could send it to a lot of moms. I completely realize that sleep training is difficult and looks different for nearly everyone, but I do get frustrated when it is taken out of context or insulted out of bias. Sleep training is not just unique to Babywise, and it is one of the biggest accomplishments for me as a working mother. There are moments when I panicked in the midst of it, but looking back it is one of the best gifts we gave our children.
Friday was my post. I tried to summarize my thoughts about what has worked best for us as working parents with a babywise philosophy. Not all of the tips are specific to babywise but I wanted a resource for other working parents to refer to from other blogs.
I am very excited to see what this network covers in the future, and I hope that you enjoyed the first Babywise-Friendly Networked Blog Week!